Life sure is full of twists and turns, sometimes taking us in directions we never expected to go in. In the 1960's, when I was born, little girls were groomed to depend on men for a fulfilling family life. Learning to cook, clean and be ladylike was the norm back then. Watching "Snow White," "Sleeping Beauty" and other lovely Disney movies, we waited for our handsome princes to come take us away. For me, that never happened. Instead of finding Prince Charming, I kissed a lot of attractive and successful "frogs." Looking fashionable and cooking gourmet meals for men just didn't do it for me, somehow. I kept my figure, wore high heels and pretty dresses, had my hair done every eight weeks and did the whole "Stepford Wife" thing (I can make a killer batch of cookies.) Still, I felt totally unfulfilled and worn out, sick of trying to be pleasing, responsible and patient while living with someone who wasn't compatible
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Marriage in itself is a fine institution for those for whom it worked out in. In my case, my marriage was disappointing, and a lesson in self-preservation. That picture-perfect husband of mine looked like he walked off a fashion runway somewhere. Behind that dazzling, pretty face was the heart of a cold, heartless, psychotic and dangerous monster. He morphed himself into an angry, dangerous drug and alcohol addict, after spending too much time with his womanizing, drunk friends. I divorced him after enduring a roller coaster of problems, threats and his infidelities. Enough was enough, so after awhile I filed for divorce when all hope for reconciliation was gone. After trying to get him help, with no success, I realized he wasn't going to get better, and concluded that if I valued my life, I had to go and not look back. His putting a knife to my throat was the last straw. That was ten years ago.
After my marriage ended, I was in my thirties, footloose and fancy free. Going out with my other single or divorced friends, we had a lot of fun going dancing, and out to restaurants together. We met up every week in downtown Cleveland high-class watering holes, and would go out to eat afterwards. Together, we visited places like Jamaica, Mexico and other exotic travel destinations, just for fun. I even lived in Mexico for two years, which was an unforgettable adventure. As time went on, one by one, my friends and I all started dating new men and saw each other less often. My next boyfriend lived in another city, and I moved there to be with him later on. That was a big mistake.
My last relationship lasted for two years to a compulsively lying, traveling salesman who it turned out had more ex-wives then he'd told me about. During his travels, he hooked up with various women, and was eventually busted later, when I found phone numbers and makeup on his shirts. He Monster Beats Solo was a notorious flirt with waitresses in any restaurant we went to, and had excuses for everything. In the beginning I stood up for myself, but my patience ran out. I just accepted the fact that he couldn't be trusted and left. He freaked out and stabbed my hand with a fork as I moved out. He was put in jail and I got a restraining order out against him as I moved far away and never looked back. Good riddance.
A few years later, here I am, happily single and proud of it. My life is full and complete, and I'm happier now than I ever was as a girlfriend or wife. Why is it so wonderful to be alone, you may ask? For starters, if I want to date, I can, but I can go home to my own place afterwards. No worries about making dinner every night. I can and do, eat cereal for dinner, without ridicule. Captain Crunch is my favorite. My second childhood has arrived. I have the whole bed to myself (except for my cats, which sleep on my feet.) If I want to take a trip, I just grab a friend and off we go. No long lectures about how that kind of thing is frivolous. I make enough money to live well, and do what I want.
Ok, so there are a few things about being http://www.beatsmonstersaustralia.com/ single that aren't easy. I have to clean the cat box and take out the trash. There was nobody to help me cope with a recent slipped disk in my back, which left me sleeping on the floor for weeks, due to the severe pain. No situation is perfect, and it would've been easier to have a partner to get through these things. But, I made it through my pre-conceived list of undesirable situations, and am now stronger for it. Before, I was more dependent on men. Now, I choose not to be. I have no idea how to fix my own car, or hang something really heavy on the wall. Handymen and mechanics are hired to help out with anything I cannot do. With practice, a workable system forms, making it easier to do all sorts of activities and chores.
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